Today is the day my nephew came into the world and made me an "Aunt". What a wonderful day! Of course, it was not without "drama", although it was brought on by myself, and had nothing to do with the labor and delivery of my nephew. However, it is a story that I should reflect back on years from now, so will go ahead and share it here.
Last night, after I wrote
this lovely post about having had a long day and another one planned for today, I proceeded to stay awake past midnight. Of course, no regrets since I was chatting with a good friend, but I knew as soon as I crawled into bed that it was going to be a short night, hoping work wouldn't be crazy. I definitely wasn't expecting a 4 AM text message from my sister letting me know she was on her way to the hospital!
I called the night charge nurse to give her a "heads up". At that time, I had no clue what I should do. I knew that it wouldn't work for me to go see my nephew as soon as I got
OFF work because I was already going to be late to my very
last play rehearsal. However, I had three really good patients yesterday (all of whom are often "emotionally needy", but I get along with them VERY well) and felt guilty about calling in sick since I had told all of them I would be back today. I also wasn't really thinking that 4AM was the cut off time for calling in sick (since never in my 5 1/2 plus years have I called in sick!). In fact, I was thinking that I had already missed the "cut off" and it was too late to make that kind of decision. The charge nurse assured me that it was my sister's first baby and it could take a while, but that it
probably would work for me to leave work since there was an extra person scheduled to do chart audits. I really didn't know what to do, but at that point I was feeling the most guilty about calling in sick and decided I would just go to work and things would work out.
I texted my mom/sister on and off from 4 until I rolled myself out of bed for work at 6:00. As soon as I got out of bed, I realized that I really
WAS going to go to work while my
ONLY sister was having her
FIRST baby. Seriously, I felt like the shi****** sister ever and just started crying. Of course, there wasn't much I could do at this point, although I tried calling my manager at 6:15 but she was not yet in the office. I tried calling my mom to see if it was really bad that I was going to work, but she didn't answer. I finally got in touch with my cousin who assured me that I was not a terrible/sh**** sister, which helped a tiny bit. By 6:30 I was on my way to Starbucks holding back tears and my sister was already 5cm dilated. My mom let me know she would call when he made his entrance.
Needless to say, I was a wreck when I got to work. I was so angry at myself for not calling in sick...but, often my priorities DO lie with my patients. However, family really SHOULD trump work...and I was feeling rather terrible about my four AM decision. While everyone assured me that it could take a while during morning report, my mom texted me that she was 6cm dilated and 100% effaced...cr**, how in the world am I going to get out of here at a decent time?!
I got to work, knowing that my heart wasn't completely there, which really only made me more frustrated. (If you have been reading my blog for long, you realize that my heart is almost ALWAYS at work...although I did take that eighteen day break back in May...ha!) I informed "my moms" of the impending birth of my nephew very soon, and that hopefully someone else would take over for me so I could leave soon after I received word.
By 9:00 I had finished my morning charting and working on getting my meds given since the text at that time was that she was pushing. Wow, that went fast, but I was told that sometimes people have to push for a long time. Trying not to freak out, but definitely started crying in my manager's office with the executive director in there...nice! (At least I know both of them very well, and they know me, and understood that I TOTALLY needed to get the heck out of there as soon as possible!)
My dad called me at 9:45 to say they were giving her "a break" but that he needed to go back to work since there were quite a few sick calls at the post office and there was mail to be delivered...darn people who want their mail! Ha!
At 10:30, my mom called to say my nephew was born at 10:19 AM. He weighed 7 pounds 4 ounces and was 19 1/2 inches long. I "quickly" reported off to the nurses who were willing to change things up a little bit so I could leave, said good-bye to my patients and clocked out at 11.
I stopped by the store to get a balloon, home to "freshen up" and pack up my gift, and grabbed some fast food on the way to the hospital. I got to the hospital around 12:15 and found the most beautiful baby there with my sister and brother-in-law :o)
My dad was gone when I got there, so I don't have any pictures of "grandpa" but did get one of one of the "proud grandmas" as well as a set of "great-grandparents". I allowed my grandma to take pictures of me with the baby and, although I had her take five of them, she neglected to tell me that my hand was in front of his face (the photo on the bottom right is the best one, although she did also take the one of me in the top row).
I stayed with my sister while her husband went home to take care of a few things (apparently she tried to have him do things last night, but he figured they had more time...not so much...ha!) So, I was there for a couple hours without anyone else...and felt much less like a "crappy sister". And, although I am not a labor and delivery or postpartum nurse, it definitely was, shall I say, "interesting" to see nursing care from the other side (she did NOT deliver at "my" hospital!).
When my brother-in-law got back, and my cousin arrived, I decided to head out. I felt like I needed a nap before play practice anyway and figured I should let someone else hold him for a while.
Remember how one thing I was worried about was getting to my final play rehearsal?! Well, since I was not at work, I could go at 7 rather than arriving closer to 8. I got into my costume and never once made it on stage to rehearse.
NOT ONCE! They ran the entire show with the other cast, but the understudies did not rehearse at all. No one even ran lines with me. I sat there from 7 until 10 and did
NOTHING. I tried not to be upset about it...other people were angry enough for me! That being said, I would have been
TICKED beyond words had I needed to stay at work all day, gone straight to rehearsal, and had to wait until tomorrow to go visit my nephew only to
SIT for three hours! Oh, there would have been WORDS then (who am I kidding...they probably would have been
OTHER peoples' words!) So, I have no idea how Saturday's show will go, but all I can do is my best!
I have the next three days off, so I will get to have some more nephew-bonding time...I am thinking there will be LOTS of that! And, more pictures too...hopefully I will get better at taking/editing pictures now that I have a cute little person to be in them!
Well, it has indeed been a long day. Not exactly the same kind of long day I imagined,but still long. However, I honestly believe that everything happened the way it was supposed to. I kind of ended up with the best of everything...my patients/parents knew that I cared enough about them to come to work even when my sister was having a baby; my manager/director know the same; my co-workers realized that although my priorties were a little off in their opinion, they did what they could to allow me to leave partway through the shift; I did not have to sit at the hospital WAITING for my nephew's arrival, he was all ready to be held and rocked when I got there; I got some special sister and nephew-bonding time; I have the next three days off; hopefully listening to the show is good enough rehearsal for me.
Good night.