The girls, their mom (and apparently the oldest of the 3 brothers in between them) went with their aunt out of town for the weekend. They left on Friday night and did not get back until Wednesday afternoon. So, the teen missed school on Tuesday and Wednesday. I do not think that was a very cool thing to do to her, but she said her grades are fine and she has been able to make up the work she missed.
Tuesday, I had a rough day. I went and saw my therapist in the morning which was actually good timing. She was worried about me because all this stuff with the teen has been weighing on my emotions and it's all up and down depending on her mom's mood. She (along with my caseworker) are a little worried about what mom will do if somehow this does end up in an investigation by the State in order for the teen to be placed back with me. It could be really ugly for me, but I'm not going to let the teen down just because I'm scared of what kinds of lies her mom will say about me.
Since the teen was out-of-town, I didn't get to talk to her as much and I was having a really hard time with that. She also didn't respond to some of my text messages and I ended up with a terrible feeling Tuesday afternoon/evening that she wouldn't want to see/talk to me after spending that time with her family. I knew that I was worrying for nothing (or that I shouldn't worry about something like that considering she isn't really my kid), but it was really hard to fight off those feelings. Wednesday was a lot better emotionally and I decided that I would let her contact me and not keep texting her and bugging her while she was with her family. I realized that I was kind of being annoying (or at least that was a definite possibility), so that helped me too.
I'm glad that I was able to get myself to simmer down because I got quite the surprise yesterday afternoon. I had a missed call from her mom yesterday at 2:30 while I was at work. I texted her that it was a crazy day, but I'd try and call her if I had a chance. I was taking the second half of my lunch break (long, busy day!) around 4:30 and got a text from the teen that her mom texted her to say she could stay the night at my house if she wanted. Yeah, totally random and I wasn't included in the communication to ask if she could or not...ha! So, the teen asked, I said sure, verified with her mom that it was okay she was there when I wasn't and she said sure. I ended up going out with people from work after work for dinner (with the teen's "blessing"/"permission") and then brought her some food. We were able to visit and she assured me that my bad feeling was not at all true :) She talked to her aunt while she was out of town about what has been going on with her mom. I'm glad she found someone to talk to, but I'm not sure if that aunt can help or not. She knows that she needs to talk to people at school about what is going on since right now it just looks like I'm trying to take her from her mom which is not at all true, but is how it could easily look.
Then, today the teen got off school early. She asked if she could come over after school since I was off. I said sure and her mom wouldn't give us a time she wanted her home. So, we hung out, ate dinner, and she had a friend came over to watch a movie. My plan (and hers) was for me to bring both girls home after the movie. I texted her mom our plan and she didn't text back until half way through the movie. She said she was tired and the teen should just stay here (she actually said "u can keep her" and I should have taken that opportunity to text "forever?!", but I did not). I am scheduled to work tomorrow, so maybe she'll end up staying all weekend?
I love that the teen is here, but two weekends ago, her mom told her she was no longer allowed to come over. I'm not sure how long our emotions can handle her mom's ways like this, but I guess we have no choice right now. It is so hard to see her so sad when she comes here after extended time at home and then now hearing her laugh with her friend (and laughing with me), knowing that this is temporary and her mom WILL take away the things she enjoys, for how ever long it is convenient for her. The downs and ups is not fun at all, but I'll continue to support her when she's here...and take care of myself (and her) when she's not.
Well, time to take her friend home so I can come back and go to bed. Tomorrow will be my fourth shift of the week (plus two days of hour and half meetings), so it's been a long week (but that bigger pay check will be nice!)
Good night.
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